“It is clear that the conflict between the parents since 2015 has been extreme. The mother has made many allegations against the father of harassment, and use of abusive language; and it is clear that both parents have been unrestrained in what they have said against the other in front of C. The father accepts that at times he has acted behaviourally in an erratic way, and has had verbal outbursts because of - and these are the words which appear in a French judgment - ‘his mental disorder (bipolarity) which can affect his discernment’.”
“In this case it emerges from numerous documents filed in the proceedings and the parties’ submissions that the relationship is highly conflictual, with the father being particularly aggressive and insulting in certain exchanges, but the mother was also able to refuse to entrust the child to him without reason. This situation can only have a deleterious effect on the child, who needs both parents without being caught up in quarrels that inevitably place him in a conflict of loyalty.”
“…Even if I had found his views amounted to an objection, I would unhesitatingly use my discretion to return C to France in circumstances where the family has no connection with England beyond the presence of the mother and C, and where the French courts are so engaged in his welfare.”
“33. The big issue in this case is Article 13(b), namely it is said by the mother there is a grave risk that a return to France would expose C to harm, or place him in an intolerable situation because the mother says simply that she will not go with him if that is what the court orders and, says (the Cafcass Officer), it would be traumatic for C to be without his mother who has been his main carer for all of his life. 34. I must assess the mother’s evidence, and seek to determine the reality of what she will do. Will she return to France or not? The test is not what it is reasonable for her to do. Secondly, what protective measures can be put in place to ameliorate the situation? I have to look at that, not so as to determine whether objectively the mother’s expressed refusal to return to France is reasonable, but to determine what impact those measures will have on her reasoning, and whether they are really likely to lead to her returning.”
“There has been no suggestion by the mother that the accommodation with C in her father’s home is in any way either unsatisfactory or unavailable for her and C’s future habitation.”
“There is no medical evidence that the thought of a return to France or an actual return would unhinge the mother’s equilibrium to the extent that she could not go or would not be able properly to function if she did go and all I have is in the most general sense her simply saying, ‘I will not go’. I have to say that I do not accept that this loving and devoted mother would separate herself from the child that she loves, and I do not accept or take at face value that she simply will not and could not go. Nor do I believe that there is any reason why she should think that way. I am quite satisfied that the protective measures offered by the father, when combined with additional measures that will stop enforcement of any charge on the property in which she lives with her father and the provision of proper financial support until the matter can get before the French court, would in combination give the mother and C a quite sufficient degree of security. I am further satisfied that the French court has at its power the full ability to add to any undertaking or make any further order for protective measures if need be. The mother has not sought any further or additional undertaking from the father. She has not asked for me to require that her old accommodation is made available for her. Her approach is simply that she will not go regardless of what the undertakings might be.”
“I conclude that in any event, for the reasons that I have given, I would exercise my discretion to order return. I remind myself that C is a child who is reported as having had a good and affectionate relationship with his father, and I read that in the report of (Cafcass Officer), who has seen all the papers. If the mother does not return, then I authorise the father and his sister to collect C, but I do very much hope that it does not come to that, as the mother would be doing a great harm to C if she forced that situation.”
“… as things stand, the withdrawal of the mother’s exercise of parental authority would be premature, even though there is no disputing that the mother has failed to fulfil her obligations. She must quickly change her behaviour because persisting with it could qualify as a serious reason. Furthermore, the father’s behaviour, particularly with regard to payment of the contribution to the child’s maintenance and education and his management of conflict with the mother, has been neither exemplary nor appropriate; he has not hesitated to stop the payment for several months and has increased his insults and verbal attacks.”
“In this case, the child is six years old. He has always lived with his mother because his parents separated just after he was born. The father initially had supervised visiting rights in a neutral place and was then allowed to have the child to stay every other weekend. The previous decisions took this bipolarity into account. The behaviour of the mother, who chose to leave without informing the father, has deprived the child of his father, with no legitimate reason to justify this. Furthermore, through her behaviour, the mother has decided not to respect the decision, particularly the investigation that has been ordered and that she is not contesting in her statement of appeal. This measure should assist the parties and the courts to find a solution in the interests of the child and the parents must get back in contact with the appointed expert to allow this measure to proceed. Finally, it should be noted that the mother has not answered the summons of the children’s judge. However, at this stage, it has not been proven that it would be in [C]’s interests to change his usual place of residence to his father’s home, even though this option must be considered if the mother continues her lack of respect for the father’s place and court decisions.”
“In June 2020, when the lockdown ended, I had to decide whether to return to France or remain in the UK. With all that had recently happened including the paternal grandfather’s two eviction attempts and the sustained historic campaign of abuse against us I could not bear the thought of returning [C] into that environment. I saw that [C] was happier here and so I decided to remain. I chose to protect my son’s life.”
“In some situations, the taking parent unequivocally asserts that they will not go back to the State of the habitual residence, and that the child’s separation from the taking parent, if returned, is inevitable. In such cases, even though the taking parent’s return with the child would in most cases protect the child from the grave risk, any efforts to introduce measures of protection or arrangements to facilitate the return of the parent may prove to be ineffectual since the court cannot, in general, force the parent to go back. It needs to be emphasised that, as a rule, the parent should not – through the wrongful removal or retention of the child – be allowed to create a situation that is potentially harmful to the child, and then rely on it to establish the existence of a grave risk to the child.”
“A decision whether to admit further evidence on appeal will therefore be directed by the Ladd v Marshall analysis, but with a view to all relevant matters ultimately being considered. In cases involving children, the importance of welfare decisions being based on sound factual findings will inevitably be a relevant matter. Approaching matters in this way involves proper flexibility, not laxity.”
“[36] There is obviously a tension between the inability of the court to resolve factual disputes between the parties and the risks that the child will face if the allegations are in fact true. Mr Turner submits that there is a sensible and pragmatic solution. Where allegations of domestic abuse are made, the court should first ask whether, if they are true, there would be a grave risk that the child would be exposed to physical or psychological harm or otherwise placed in an intolerable situation. If so, the court must then ask how the child can be protected against the risk. The appropriate protective measures and their efficacy will obviously vary from case to case and from country to country. This is where arrangements for international co-operation between liaison judges are so helpful. Without such protective measures, the court may have no option but to do the best it can to resolve the disputed issues.”
“12. Where a child has been wrongfully removed or retained in terms of Article 3 and … a period of less than a year has elapsed from the date of the wrongful removal or retention, the authority concerned shall order the return of the child forthwith.”
“It needs to be emphasised that, as a rule, the parent should not – through the wrongful removal or retention of the child – be allowed to create a situation that is potentially harmful to the child, and then rely on it to establish the existence of a grave risk to the child.”
‘Will she return to France? The test is not what it is reasonable for her to do. … I have to look at that, not so as to determine whether objectively the mother’s expressed refusal to return to France is reasonable, but to determine what impact these measures will have on her reasoning and whether they are likely to lead to her returning.’
‘I do not accept that this loving and devoted mother would separate herself from the child that she loves’