“34. I also draw upon these findings to deal with the overarching issue that the mother has manipulated, persuaded and encouraged B in making the allegations of sexual abuse. I am quite satisfied the mother has done all of those things. Her motivation for doing so is clear and it is that she wishes to remove the father from B’s life and ensure that no contact takes place whatsoever and she can care for B solely with [her partner]. This was stated by the mother to Detective Sergeant K in a message of 31 October. DS K has recorded a telephone conversation with the mother: “[The mother] informed me that she wants the child to have no contact with the father as she wants to move in with her new partner to start a new life.”
“The mother says that she has concerns about the possibility of B being sexually abused while at his grandfather’s home. Of that there is no doubt in that reference to NSPCC.”
“the mother is linking B’s difficulty with urinating and what he says is pain in his penis with his being, as mother says, sexually abused.”
“The mother was clearly shocked by this. She was certain that B was the victim of sexual abuse from both the father and grandfather and simply did not understand how it could be said that she was the cause of harm to B.”
“B’s mother seemed particularly affected in that respect.”
“formed the clear view that she was intent on pushing her agenda that B had been sexually abused by his father and grandfather and that agenda of course was to put the father out of B’s life.”
“simply did not satisfy the mother and she, in my view, enlisted the help of many others in her quest to prove that the father and the paternal grandfather had sexually abused B.”
“It is an embellishment by the mother that, in my judgment, shows clearly how the mother is lying about the father and seeking to blacken his name.”
“47…. I am quite satisfied that the primary cause of B’s behaviour and his demeanour is the mother’s determined and concerted effort to remove the father from his life. The father is not blameless, as I have found, and as he has partially accepted….That the mother and father are also deeply attached to and love B is not in doubt either but they have allowed their love of B to be confused and consumed with getting B to prefer one of them over the other. That is harmful to children and has caused significant harm to B. I fear that the mother will not accept these findings. In her evidence she was very strident in asserting “It,” and by this I think she meant no doubt the allegations of sexual abuse, “will all come out one day and I’ll be vindicated.”
“Despite the findings made there may well be the potential that she has established a true belief as to her assertions as a result of clinical dysfunction and that this has contributed to her willingness to influence her son’s allegations.”
“In my opinion mother has disconnected from B’s needs. She is actually quite dismissive of him and is overly preoccupied with what she thinks has happened to him.” “I am concerned that he is developing false memories because his mother is convinced he has been hurt.” “My concern is that B is presenting with psychiatric illness as a result of his mother’s fixed belief system.” “I do not think he will be safe with [the mother’s partner] as he is supporting [the mother’s] beliefs.”
“I said previously that whilst it is generally accepted that the mother holds her views genuinely they are still nevertheless quite irrational and in my judgment the mother would, if she had the care of B, continue with her irrational beliefs which would have the significant impact upon B as described by Dr B. In my overall assessment of the evidence I find that the mother would not be in a position to care for B safely within the timescale that B needs.”
“26. In my judgment the findings are not mutually exclusive with each other and do not suggest some shift in my mind about the mother and her presentation. I am entirely satisfied that the mother can hold a belief genuinely, albeit irrationally but still can nevertheless manipulate and persuade B in making false allegations of sexual abuse.”
“B is aware that his mother needs him to present his father as the bad parent and to continue to repeat his allegations. Despite the work that’s been done with him and the very clear narrative that’s now being given to him he continues to try and support his mother. [The mother] actively tries to sabotage the process by saying things like she is now completely well but still maintaining she believes his father hurt him. She will not need to say that openly to B; he will know her views as he is highly attuned to her.”