“There are likely to be a number of reasons why both children display aggressive behaviour. The children have been exposed to domestic violence and evidence shows that children who have witnessed domestic violence tend to exhibit more aggressive behaviours and are more likely to develop anger and temperament problems. Furthermore, A and B have developed in an environment where there are poor and inconsistent boundaries and where conflict has been a prominent feature. They have seen their mother treated in a negative manner and been exposed to inconsistent emotional responses from their mother. It is therefore likely that the children lack trust in their mother’s capacity to keep them safe and lack the capacity to predict what will happen within the home. The children attempt to control and have power over their mother within the home and (mother) struggles to regulate their emotions and behaviour. I also feel that the children lack respect when it comes to their mother.”
“the children have both internalised a perception that their mother’s boundaries are irrelevant due to the lack of consistent responses and consequences/discipline. While (mother’s) boundaries can at times be effective in promoting positive behaviour in the children, it is my opinion that the children behave when they want to and are the ones largely in control.”
“It is noted that the emotional harm suffered by the children is largely due to (mother’s) inability to provide the children with a calm, consistent and predictable environment; to manage their behaviour and routines and to provide appropriate and consistent emotional responses to them. It is noted that whilst (mother) is able to recognise to a certain extent what needs to change (such as being more consistent) she is unable to make and sustain these changes. I am concerned about the impact of further emotional harm on the children, which are likely to result in further psychological or behavioural problems, as well as the cumulative effect on the children of sporadic improvements which are not sustained and which do not result in a lasting, positive change to their day to day lives.”
“With ongoing exposure to any conflict, discontinuity of care and inadequate parenting the risks for both children are substantial. The psychological evidence is very clear that children who do not have access to good enough parenting and who are not able to repair some early adversity are at very high risk of experiencing long term psychological problems.”
“It would therefore in my opinion remain a very high risk strategy to expect (mother) to be able to meet the needs of her children without an exceptionally high level of support and monitoring and with an acceptance that their emotional wellbeing will not be fully met through the parenting experience offered by their mother.”
“As at August 2015 the mother accepts that A and B were at risk of suffering emotional harm and did suffer some emotional harm (as identified as being significant subsequently by the experts) as a result of those facts. She accepts that she failed to protect them adequately at that time from suffering such harm and that she could have done more to protect them. However she now contends that her parenting has improved and they are no longer at risk of suffering significant harm in her care.”
“(a) This is dealt with in the agreed threshold; (b) This is a case about emotional harm and meeting all of B’s emotion needs so that she can develop into a well adjusted child, young person and adult able to form positive relationships. (c) If she remains with her mother where her emotional needs are not fully met on a daily basis she remains at risk of suffering further significant emotional harm. (d) If she moves to her father he could probably meet her daily emotional needs, but it would carry a risk of placement breakdown which would cause further significant emotional harm. (e) Adoption is a leap in the dark and without maintenance of her existing relationships with A in particular and the rest of her family in some form or another she is at risk of suffering emotional harm.” (b) This is a case about emotional harm and meeting all of B’s emotion needs so that she can develop into a well adjusted child, young person and adult able to form positive relationships. (c) If she remains with her mother where her emotional needs are not fully met on a daily basis she remains at risk of suffering further significant emotional harm. (d) If she moves to her father he could probably meet her daily emotional needs, but it would carry a risk of placement breakdown which would cause further significant emotional harm. (e) Adoption is a leap in the dark and without maintenance of her existing relationships with A in particular and the rest of her family in some form or another she is at risk of suffering emotional harm.”
“The disadvantage of [placement with mother] is that B is currently suffering significant harm notwithstanding that there is already help and support in place and there has been for most of B’s life. In looking at [this] issue Dr Williams pointed out that there was a case for not leaving C with the mother for fear of history repeating itself. Having said that, there are some differences brought about by the mother’s maturity, change of attitude and the theoretical knowledge she has acquired. So far in his short life C has not experienced developmental trauma so as to require reparative parenting and all his needs are currently being met. The hope is with only one child to focus upon, C stands a better chance of continuing to receive parenting from his mother that is good enough to meet all his needs, including emotional. ”
“B’s greatest need is to have all her emotional needs met now. Sadly and reluctantly I am driven to conclude that this is simply not achievable in her mother’s care and there is no readily available solution to the attunement problem which exposes B to significant emotional harm. Therefore B cannot remain with her mother and nothing other than adoption will do.”