“22. …almost from the moment of return, these parents have engaged in an attritional war about N. Each has accused the other of negligence and worse. The father told me that he has made no fewer than six complaints to the police about the mother’s care of N. Some of those complaints have been, up to a point, justified. Some were plain over-reactions and some were, in my view, inventions. …. 23. For her part, the mother breached the agreed contact regime almost as soon as she stepped off the aeroplane. She herself has insinuated that the father has been guilty of neglecting N.”
“43. It is plain that from about April 2013 to the middle part of this year, 2014, the mother’s life has been very disturbed and disordered indeed. The excessive drinking, which has been confirmed by the test results, and the formation of at least one highly inappropriate and unsuitable relationship imperilled her and also imperilled N. However, it is fair to say that in the second part of this year stability seems to have taken hold. Indeed, the mother has allowed the father far more contact than the operative provisions of the order stipulate. She has done so up to a point through motives of self-interest, in order to pursue her relationship with [a new boyfriend] but it is also perhaps a sign that this mother has started to turn her anarchic and dysfunctional life around.”
“58. Notwithstanding the fractures and rifts within her family in [Sweden], I just [sic, but may perhaps be a mis-transcription of “judge”] that the mother’s proposals in relation to Sweden are realistic and well-researched. I think that a return would bring a welcome stability and security into her life and would give her a sense of purpose and of responsibility. I think that the life of conflict and chaos that she has lately been living would be replaced by something more healthy and purposeful. Fundamentally I consider that there is a good prospect of the unhappiness and anxiety, as so vividly described by Dr Draper, being replaced by, if not happiness then certainly contentment.”
“70. …. I am satisfied that it is more in N’s interests for her to live with her primary carer in a place where she (the mother) can be happy and fulfilled. It is more in her interests than the continuance of the instability, uncertainty, conflict and misery that presently pertains. That conflict and misery has been the hallmark of the mother’s life since her return. I say this acknowledging that this decision will compromise, up to a point, the father’s relationship with his daughter and that it will be bitterly disappointing for him… 71. I am satisfied that N has a better prospect of a healthy and safe life in Sweden than if she remains here. I am satisfied that her dual heritage is better promoted were she to return to Sweden. Like all Swedes, she will end up fluent in English.”
“65. My impression is that if the present situation, or anything like it, continues the father will not be able to control himself from monitoring every aspect of the mother’s life. Her sense of being beleaguered will continue. I foresee endless further complaints and allegations.”