"6. R said the only thing to cause her unhappiness and uncertainty in her life has been the indirect contact from her father during the past 12 months. She was very clear that it has caused her to feel unsettled and worried, and she said she is certain that she does not want to see her father or to continue the indirect contact. She told me several times that she had not been influenced by her mother, who continually tells her that she will support her decision, and that if she is happy to see her father, she must feel free to do so. "7. ... I had no sense that she had been coached or influenced by the mother in any way. "9. R responded to the question 'What makes me feel safe?': 'Being with mum, who would never hurt me and always wants the best for me'. She replied that she feels unsafe when she thinks about her dad. "11. To the question 'What makes me sad?' she replied 'When I get letters from my dad and when I have to talk about him'. She feels bad when she 'thinks about dad' and what might happen and worries that he might take her away from her mummy. "14. She said of course she would have wanted a father who loved her and lived with her and cared for her when she was growing up, but that was not possible and too much time has gone by and he has another family. Nevertheless, she said cannot see how seeing him would not turn her life upside down."
" ... that if only she could take a few initial steps towards a meeting, that would bring her the reassurance that she craves, would dispel worries and concerns and everything would be fine."