“I am not going to delay the making of the Order while she gets this assessment, but I suggest she does it for personal reasons. I think that her anxieties, whether real or perceived, her distrust of [the father] all needs to be addressed by some work undertaken by a psychiatrist. It is something that is not in my gift to order but Dr Berelowitz is an expert I know and whilst I have no concerns that mother has mental health issues, her anxieties need to be addressed. I am told that Dr Berelowitz can report in relatively shorter order, can commence his assessment in January and this can take 6-8 weeks, however that is a matter for Miss Graham and not for me.”
“I am satisfied that Lilian has been well cared for by her father, the fact that there has been no anaphylactic reaction whilst in her father’s care since April indicates that he knows what he is doing, he is able to prioritise Lilian’s needs, and is able to ensure that she is safe.”
“I think that mother must accept that in due course staying contact will happen. Whether that is in a year’s time or more time than that, I cannot really say at the moment, but Lilian needs to have as normal a life as possible, and as normal a time with her father as possible.”
“...I do not believe that Miss Graham has a monopoly on the ability to look after her daughter.”
“Let me make it clear; contact is Lillian’s right; it is not anybody’s gift. It is not something that people can dictate. It is Lillian’s right to have a good, healthy relationship with both parents, and that includes her father.”
“But I make it quite clear that if he is capable of looking after Lillian without risk to her health then overnight contact will be progressed. I know Miss Graham wants it not until Lillian is nine or ten or eleven, but it is not about what Miss Graham wants, it is about Lillian’s needs, and Lillian needs to have a healthy relationship with her father. The CAFCASS Officer recommends a move towards overnight stay and contact and I agree with her.”