“The Applicant is deeply concerned and believes, if the Respondent moves B from London, he will lose contact with the child given the distance. The Applicant also fears for B’s safety should the Respondent be allowed to solely care for B without assistance. The Applicant asks that the Court grant a Prohibited Steps Order to prevent the Respondent from moving B from London.”
“It is my opinion that any changes in their current circumstance would cause emotional upheaval for B as she is settled into a routine of travelling between [the father] and [the mother]. [The mother] told me that she wants [the father] to stop making such allegations and move forward with their lives. [The mother] is correct in stating that it is not good for B’s emotional development.”
“I am supportive of [the mother] and the current arrangements for [the father] to continue to have a shared residence in regards to B as it currently stands as this will ensure B continues to receive the consistency of care and stability from her mother. It is vital that both parents engage with the mediation service as their relationship is acrimonious and if this is left to continue it will affect B’s emotional development later on in life … I therefore summarise the main points as directed by the Court in the Orders of 27 April and 20 June as follows: I am recommending the Joint Residence Order continues, it follows that I recommend that residency for B during the holiday times is divided between [the mother] and [the father] this should be explored and agreed in mediation, as it is unclear at this stage what the holiday arrangements would be for both [mother] and [father]. [Again, it should be noted that despite the reference to a Joint Residence Order, none such existed; there was simply the arrangement offered by the mother and operated between the parties after they parted, whereby the father had contact from 9 a.m. on Saturday to 6 p.m. on Sunday.] … With regards to [the mother’s] move to Norwich, this she states has been put on hold as she reiterates she does not have any such plans for the time being. If she were to move, she would not do so without consulting [the father] with regards to this. Children’s Social Care do not have any current role to play in B’s life as we do not have any concerns for her welfare at present.”
“1. I found no indications that [the mother] is currently presenting with a mental illness or personality disorder. I believe she was post-natally depressed in 2010 and in the longer term she is very likely to be presenting, and continuing to present with emotionally unstable personality features. I considered whether she meets criteria for an emotionally unstable personality disorder and do not believe her difficulties are of sufficient severity and there are too many positive aspects to her presentation as well. 2. My overall formulation is that her difficulties with [the father] should be understood in context and that it would be an incomplete explanation of what has gone on to single her out as the disturbed one. 3. An important difference between them seems to be that she is an externaliser and therefore expresses her feelings and ‘lets it all out’. [The father] could have been just as angry and problematic but in a passive rather than active way. In this way, he looks less disturbed and she looks much more disturbed. With informed speculation I would suggest this is unlikely to be the whole story. 4. Despite [the mother’s] history of aggression with [the father], the best way forward, is, of course, peace, and a new settlement that re-labels the situation as a challenge. This would be so that B doesn’t grow up with parents locked in a messy battle with no winners. Both need to back down from trying to win and be right and instead re-centre B’s needs. I suggest they go for mediation. 5. [The mother] has had psychological treatment which she views as having been helpful. I do not see her as having a pressing need for more at this juncture. In the medium term, however, she should seriously consider engaging in psychoanalytic psychotherapy to assist with her deeper characterological problems which are undoubted in my view. 6. [The mother] denied to me being violent with a previous partner although I have read Section G which suggests otherwise. If it is later confirmed that she had assaulted a previous partner this would not be entirely surprising. The context of that, too, would need to be understood.”
“I believe that I can no longer make compromises where the emotional and physical wellbeing of my daughter is at stake. [The mother’s] inability to face and deal with her problems poses a risk for evermore to B and Children’s Services have proved absolutely incapable of assessing risk to B let alone dealing with it long term. The risks are still real, escalated and unaddressed, hence my position is modified in line with the provision in my first statement and my humble request is for sole residency to be awarded to me. This will allow me better authority to plan, assess and regulate B’s environment for evermore.”
“64. … Had he acted appropriately then the whole situation could have been totally avoided, or defused and the child reassured. To involve the police on the basis the father says that he was simply seeking advice is neither credible nor appropriate. The father is an intelligent, professional, man and, as such, would have known full well it is not for the police to mediate at contact handovers. 65. … The only construction that I can put upon that incident is that the father was trying to maximise the impact that he says that the absence of the Mother makes on handovers and trying, again, to discredit the Mother and portray her in a bad light for not being there. The fact this incident follows on from the totally unacceptable behaviour of the father only two days before when he picked up B can only serve to reinforce my view that the father has had scant regard for his actions and their impact upon B’s wellbeing.”
“77. … The father is determined at all costs, I find, to ensure that the mother must know nothing of B’s activities whilst she is with him or who she may come into contact with. I am afraid that I can repose no confidence in the Father ceasing his overt aggression to the Mother manifested in those incidents and texts once this case is concluded. 78. My conclusion, therefore, having heard and read so much evidence is that Dr Campbell is indeed right to say (as he does at paragraph 2): “My overall formulation is that the mother’s difficulties should be understood in context and it would be an incomplete explanation of what has gone on to single her out as the disturbed one.”” “My overall formulation is that the mother’s difficulties should be understood in context and it would be an incomplete explanation of what has gone on to single her out as the disturbed one.””
“lead me to believe that B would undoubtedly say that she did not want her parents to quarrel or to be angry with each other, and that she would simply wish to have a happy life and knowing that she is loved by them both. I am quite sure, too, that along with all children she would not want to see her Mother (who I do regard as her primary carer) upset. In older children, that is what we hear again and again in such cases.”
“95. … I say this because, I repeat, I have concerns that the Father is not prepared in any way to recognise the Mother as an appropriate caregiver to B, which she patently is, and where the Mother, I find, has been her primary caregiver. The Father, I find, has acted quite unreasonably in, not only the continued abuse of the Mother, but in his overwhelming desire to wrest B from her and to control the Mother’s life. To summarise: (a) He has sought to stop the Mother in pursuing her life vis a vis where she lives and works; (b) He has sought to portray the Grandmother as being a violent and angry person when I find there is no substance to that and knowing that B is very attached to her Grandmother; (c) He has refused to consider mediation and I do not accept his reasoning for that. His refusal clearly stems from his determination that he is not going to give any ground on what he perceives as his rights; (d) He has refused to countenance the Mother’s legitimate request for a holiday in Malaysia with B; (e) There has been a lack of understanding and a failure to support the Mother’s beliefs demonstrated in that incident over the book; (f) He has sought to dictate what school/nursery B should attend from a date before B’s second birthday. In the Father’s Position Statement it is argued that because of the Mother’s refusal to enrol the child that: “She is missing out on early socialisation and the structured play enjoyed by her peers and because she cannot be enrolled someone has to care for her, which has professional and financial costs to the Father and therefore B during the periods she is with him.”
“She is missing out on early socialisation and the structured play enjoyed by her peers and because she cannot be enrolled someone has to care for her, which has professional and financial costs to the Father and therefore B during the periods she is with him.”
“Here it is the Father who seeks to dominate and control and a Shared Residence Order would be a weapon, I find, which I am quite sure that he would use in the pursuit of that goal. It is for that reason that I decline to make such an order, not simply to reflect any imbalance as between the time split between one parent and the other.”
“Plainly the fact of a Shared Residence Order was an important factor, but it was not a trump card preventing relocation. In each case, what the Court had to do was to examine the underlying factual matrix and decide in all the circumstances of the case whether or not it was in the child’s interests to relocate with the parent who wished to move. There might be relocations in which a Shared Residence Order was determinative of welfare, but there will be others in which, notwithstanding the existence of a Shared Residence Order, it would plainly be in the child’s best interests to relocate. The critical thing was always the balance between the parents’ freedom to locate and the welfare of the child which might militate against relocation.”
“51. … the correct approach, in my view, is … to look at the underlying factual substratum in welfare terms, bearing in mind the tension which may well exist between the freedom to locate which any parent must enjoy against the welfare of the child which may militate against relocation. In my judgment it is this balance which is critical, and the danger of distinguishing the case as a matter of law is that the Court will either lose sight of, or give insufficient weight to the former consideration.”
“52. In particular, a Shared Residence Order must not, in my judgment, be seen as an automatic bar to relocation, or as a trump card against relocation. There may be cases in which it is determinative of welfare, but there will be others where it will plainly be in the best interests of a child to relocate, notwithstanding the existence of a Shared Residence Order. Simply to distinguish the case on the basis of a Shared Residence Order is, in my judgment to run the risk of making it determinative in all cases and of distorting the welfare balancing exercise.”
“… When everything has been said, done and considered, the ultimate test remains the welfare of the child, which, in the last analysis, overbears all other considerations however powerful and reasonable they may be.”
“It is too late for it to be permissible for this Court to rule that, in internal relocation cases, the analysis of the child’s welfare, informed by consideration of the matters specified in section 1(3) of the Act, should not be conducted through the prism of whether the circumstances are exceptional.”
“For the parties to be in such close proximity and the Father competing to prove that he is the better parent is not what any child needs and that must be so in a child as young as B.”
“36. In my judgment, therefore it is wrong in principle to apply different criteria to the question of internal relocation simply because there is a shared residence order. Plainly, the fact of such an order is an important factor in the welfare equation, but I respectfully agree with counsel that it is not, in effect, a trump card preventing relocation. In each case what the court has to do is to examine the underlying factual matrix, and to decide in all the circumstances of the case whether or not it is in the child’s interest to relocate with the parent who wishes to move.”