“I accept the submission which was made on her behalf that she has approached matters with insight and intelligence. In my judgment the fact that contact has worked as well as it has is a reflection on her ability to accept the orders and on her ability not to convey her misgivings to [H].”
“[H] requires very careful and sympathetic understanding, consistency and a complete absence of further emotional pressure. Whether this can be achieved within the proposed structure of contact remains to be seen, but I do not consider that any risk of discomfort should rule out the current proposals.”
“His grandparents should collect him from his mother’s home today with the aid of the guardian if necessary and any other enforcement agency, including the police if necessary. He should stay with them over the weekend. His grandparents should take him to school on Monday morning.”
“I would strongly recommend that [H’s] wishes and views be accepted by [the father] if he wants to have some hope of repairing the relationship between H and himself and [H] and his grandparents. If there is continual pressure on [H] to see his father and/or grandparents when it is so strongly against his wishes I think this will intensify [H’s] suicidal feelings and may precipitate some impulsive action on [H’s] part. He would see suicide as a way out of an intolerable dilemma […] If an order for contact with either [H’s] father or grandfather is made when [H] is so clearly telling everyone it makes him feel despairing and suicidal it is going to be very difficult to find a way to help [H]. It is also likely to make contact in the long run unsuccessful.”