“These cases are never easy and the mother faces the difficulty that the judge made a careful discretionary decision apparently applying the correct criteria. However, there is enough in the grounds of appeal and the skeleton argument put in on the mother’s behalf to make it appropriate for her to be given the opportunity to persuade the full court that she has an arguable appeal and one moreover which should succeed.”
“This is how I want to live my life, my partner and I wish to emigrate, we have prospects for a good life in New Zealand, there will be employment there, it is a lovely place and the effect on me if we do not go will be devastating. I am suffering”, as she told the judge, “from depression, and I am taking medication. Please allow me to go”
“85. In summary I would suggest that the following considerations should be in the forefront of the mind of a judge trying one of these difficult cases. They are not and could not be exclusive of the other important matters which arise in the individual case to be decided. All the relevant factors need to be considered, including the points I make below, so far as they are relevant, and weighed in the balance. The points I make are obvious but in view of the arguments presented to us in this case, it may be worthwhile to repeat them: (a) The welfare of the child is always paramount. (b) There is no presumption created by s 13(1)(b) in favour of the applicant parent. (c) The reasonable proposals of the parent with a residence order wishing to live abroad carry great weight. (d) Consequently, the proposals have to be scrutinised with care and the court needs to be satisfied that there is a genuine motivation for the move and not the intention to bring contact between the child and the other parent to an end. (e) The effect upon the applicant parent and the new family of the child of a refusal of leave is very important. (f) The effect upon the child of the denial of contact with the other parent and in some cases his family is very important. (g) The opportunity for continuing contact between the child and the parent left behind may be very significant.” (a) The welfare of the child is always paramount. (b) There is no presumption created by s 13(1)(b) in favour of the applicant parent. (c) The reasonable proposals of the parent with a residence order wishing to live abroad carry great weight. (d) Consequently, the proposals have to be scrutinised with care and the court needs to be satisfied that there is a genuine motivation for the move and not the intention to bring contact between the child and the other parent to an end. (e) The effect upon the applicant parent and the new family of the child of a refusal of leave is very important. (f) The effect upon the child of the denial of contact with the other parent and in some cases his family is very important. (g) The opportunity for continuing contact between the child and the parent left behind may be very significant.”
“Well, there will be upset on both sides”
“Then after the break of some weeks I picked up the case again and heard from [the mother], who was briefly re-called. She talked about getting depression and she said that the possibility of refusal is horrendous. She said that she was taking some pills for depression.”
“[The father] gave evidence and he said that he had against the odds kept some sort of contact and it seems to me, and I referred briefly to the history of the application, that there has been a battle on his behalf.”
“28. It is a very important consideration. I have to say that I have no medical evidence of significant depression. I heard the mother come back when she was re-called and say that she was suffering and would suffer more if I turned her down. Mr Rowlands put it well when he said there will be very great unhappiness as a result of my decision one side or the other. The father also has had to have some medicaments for depression. It is not a case where I am able to say that the mother will be so savagely or severely damaged that this will get through to the children. She will be disappointed but she will have to consider what she can best do to overcome it if I turn down her application. 29. ‘Tenth, in many cases the opposition is based on the harm that is alleged to flow from a reduction in contact.’ That is what the father says largely. It is not only that. He draws attention to the other members of the family. He casts doubt on whether this arrangement will last between [Mr B] and his ex-wife. I cannot predict that and I would not seek to do so. I will just say that I am troubled by the suggestion by both [the mother] and [Mr B] that he will go anyhow and leave a small baby behind, a girl born in June of this year. It does make me wonder what commitment he has to family life, but I can put it no higher than that.”
“(1) The mother wants to go. She has not deliberately chosen the furthest place away. In other words it was a genuine application. That was a highly relevant consideration, and a primary consideration for the judge. “(2) She will be upset, I express the word ‘upset’, I cannot say emotionally damaged, if refused.”
“9) There is real hostility between the parties and that increases my fear. I have come to the conclusion that part of the reason for this application is to avoid the inconvenience and unpleasantness of conserving contact. (10) The mother’s proposals for maintaining contact, indeed meeting in America, are somewhat unrealistic. I do not overlook the bond and if I had made this order I would have tied it up with some way of bonding the money. (11) The loss of the wider family has not been properly considered by the mother, and the grandparents and other cousins and aunts have a part to play in their life. (12) There has been a previous failure in Norfolk in somewhat similar circumstances. I believe there is a degree of impulsiveness in this application. (13) The children’s views are of limited value. The girl is very young. The boy’s views need to be qualified in the way that I have done. (14) Attitude of [Mr B], ‘I will go anyway’, is troubling and shows, it appears, a lack of commitment to family life. I cannot see any real reason why they have not married and whilst I cannot draw a specific conclusion from that, I do query his commitment.”