“It is clear that the mother has a violent temper…and I have to say regrettably that that is so. It is clear that the mother has been involved in violent arguments and she is a perpetrator as well as being a victim. Certainly a victim of FM.”
“It is a mixture of good things and bad things. She is a warm mother. She is a loving mother. She has a sunny personality and I accept T’s description of her. She is extremely bright. She is very articulate and she is imaginative. I am sure she has done a great deal to advance her daughter’s success at school, because her daughter is clearly doing well at school, having had a difficult time.”
“…because, firstly, her mother, without any good reason, has denied her the opportunity of contact with, and a loving relationship with, her father, grandmother and grandfather. Moreover, she has poisoned her mind against them. Secondly, she suffered significant emotional harm because she has been exposed to violent behaviour and threats by the mother and [FM]. Thirdly, she has been inappropriately exposed to her mother’s emotional comments about her own illness. I am not satisfied she is at risk of physical harm from either the mother or [FM], although, as I say, being exposed to a violent relationship creates a risk of significant emotional harm to the child.”
“I am quite satisfied, from everything that I have read…that T loves her mother and that she wants to return to live with her mother, and that at present she does not want direct contact with her father and grandmother. Her wishes to return home have remained constant.”
“Her teacher had understood from [T] that she was always thinking about her mother and wanting to be returned to her. She has constantly maintained that she would like more than anything else to be allowed to return home to reside in her mother’s care.”
“[T’s] foster mother informed me that [T] has resigned to the probability she will be placed in long-term foster care.”
“While I feel that [T] will be emotionally affected, as she is currently, by being separated from her mother, I feel that [T] has resigned herself to the probability of being in long-term foster care as she has realised she has been able to function as a full-time carer for her mother and her mother is likely to require the support of [FM].”
“[T], at the age of 10½ is entitled to form her wishes and is entitled to have those wishes respected and given weight. However, at her age they cannot be determinative. I have to decide what I think is best for her, having regard to all the factors in this case, including the possible affect on her of making a decision contrary to those wishes.”
“[T] has a very well-adjusted 9 year old [as she was then]. It is evident that the relationship between her and her mother is very significant.”
“…she received fairly good nurturing during the early years of her childhood while she was being cared for by her mother, maternal grandmother and with the support of her father.”
“…a strong and significant attachment to her mother.”
“I am satisfied [T] needs a home where her carer will meet her physical and emotional needs. Meeting her emotional needs including encouraging a good and warm, secure relationship with her maternal grandparents and her father if she does not live with them. That is all the more important for her because she has not been living with her mother for nearly a year, and virtually there has been no contact with her father and grandmother since February 2005.”
“it is important that the carer who, if she is not the mother, encourages a good, warm and secure relationship with her mother.”
“I have no concern about [mother’s] ability to meet [T’s] needs other than her emotional needs.”
“There are good things about her past care for [T]. [T] loves her. But having made every allowance for the effect on her own illness, it was very sad that when I was listening to her give evidence there was no trace of any insight whatsoever into [T’s] feelings or why people had been worried for a number of years.”
“I am satisfied, in summary, that if [T] goes home it will not be possible for that to occur by way of a gradual reintroduction; that [FM] will remain in close relationship with her mother; there will be no co-operation with Social Services, and no contact with [T’s] father and the maternal grandparents, who would be denigrated by the mother and [FM]. I am satisfied that [mother] is not capable of meeting [T’s] emotional needs.”
“But the greatest disadvantage, in my judgment, is that there will be a loss of [T’s] present relationship with her mother. That relationship will be changed and will greatly diminish. In addition, Miss Strange [the social worker] recognises that it is well-known that teenage foster children often return home eventually, either because it is planned or by taking the decision themselves.”
“Moreover, [T] has now turned 10 years of age and is moving forwards with her independence and is more able to assert her own needs where she wasn’t able to before. Ultimately it is likely that [T’s] emotional needs will not be met within a long-term foster placement and would be likely to suffer further emotional damage in such a setting. Indeed, [T] herself has stated she would run away back to her mother.”
“…if [T] remains in foster care there is the real possibility of the developing relationship between her grandmother and father, and some relationship with her mother through contact…”
“I am satisfied it is not in [T’s] interests for a decision to be delayed. She has been waiting for a year. Dr Padamsee and Mr Weir [that’s the guardian] support the applicants, as do [father] and [grandmother]. I agree with the Local Authority. [T] has suffered and will be more than likely to suffer serious emotional harm if she returns to her mother which would outweigh, in the long-term, the harm she would suffer by having her relationship with her mother diminished.”