“My view is that short term distress is inevitable. But so is long term harm, based on my view of the future problems, assisted by the expert evidence of the Guardian and Dr Bolsover, un-contradicted by any other expert. The added harm of Mother completely withdrawing is possible but not certain. I have considered whether a change of residence can properly be made without a child psychology assessment of Elle. However this would require co-operation by the current resident parent, i.e. Mother, which will not be forthcoming. While it may be desirable it is not achievable, and this court cannot thereby be held to ransom. “The balance has to be struck having regard to the principle that the welfare of Ellie is paramount, and the order must not be influenced by considerations or reward or punishment of the parents. That balance requires me to make a Residence Order to Father Darren Paul Curryer, with a reasonable Contact Order to Mother, Melissa Duff.”
“I have had to remind myself not to allow my irritation at how she has treated these proceedings and this court to affect my judgment, which is not to punish or to reward either parent but to make an order best designed to promote and ensure L’s welfare.”
“So, [and I emphasise that word] while it is right that her evidence would fall very far short of establishing that L is suffering significant harm at the present time, it does not deny many of the concerns expressed by Dr Bolsover and the guardian as to harm in the future.”
“This does not, in my judgment, affect mother’s attitude which remains an unnatural reluctance to allow L to integrate with other children.” [my emphasis] There again are the words of findings of fact. With reference to the guardian’s report he said in paragraph 28: “I cannot point to any aspect of her evidence which is clearly wrong.”
“as a sensitive person, well aware that any change would be distressing and not expecting a bed of roses to meet the new situation, he has a suitable family support network and would seek appropriate help from professionals if matters were too difficult to be managed within the family.”
“Father’s position is that he would be content with the relationship of his daughter built on proper contact if that were possible and would not be pursuing this drastic step but for the fact that contact is not possible. I agree the proper contact is not possible while residence remains with the mother, given her underlying attitude. I do not believe that she would not sabotage contact as in one way or another she did the last two.”