“There is a very deep rift between these two families. I formed the view that there is little chance of [E] being brought up with any sense of integration of the two sides of his identity if he remains living with [the paternal grandmother]. [The paternal grandmother] trusts in her own instincts and has a track record of doing things her own way. In the last year she has taken advice and complied with professional thinking. … There is still time prior to a final hearing for the parties to consider their positions. If conflict remains the hallmark of the interaction between the two families, it is my view that [E]’s needs might not be able to be met within a family placement, despite [the paternal grandmother]’s best intentions.”
“on the basis of all the information that I have at my disposal I would have to agree that [E]’s interests would be better met in the long term by an adoptive placement.”
“In summary, the risk of harm to [E] that [his mother] poses is a risk of further physical harm and, arguably of more significance, of long-term emotional harm because of the unresolved conflict between the two families.”
“Stranger adoption offers [E] more space to be able to assimilate and integrate the whole story into the rest of his life. [The paternal grandmother] does not have the perception or skills to manage difficulties that will arise in the future.”
“However, if it is possible to demonstrate that she can parent [E] away from that influence, and that might mean physically moving away, which I believe is now what she is talking about, then I am more optimistic about the prospect of her being able to parent him effectively and safely.”
“unless the court is satisfied that [the paternal grandmother] is able to make the break, physical and emotional, has the capacity to set up a new home for [E] in circumstances that are going to be wholesome, protective and safe, if the court cannot be satisfied that that can be achieved soon, if not immediately, then I would have concerns that this was long term a viable prospect, and that an alternative permanent solution should be looked for.”
“[E] faces the prospect of substantial disruption in his life in any event. Either he leaves the home in which he has been settled and secure for the last two years, for a future in a new environment with [the paternal grandmother] or he moves to an adoptive placement in a new family. The obvious advantage of the first course over the second is the preservation of the primary attachment to his “mother figure”
“I have no reason to doubt that [the paternal grandmother] genuinely wants to do the best she can for [E] and believes that the solution she is offering, and prepared to make considerable personal sacrifice for, is best for him. I do not believe, though, that she can separate in her mind what is best for [E] from what she wants for herself. As she said in evidence, it is the awfulness of the prospect of losing [E] that is the driving force in her decision. I am satisfied that she simply cannot bear to let go, and that she is prepared to sacrifice almost anything as the price for keeping him. I do not think that she has properly thought through her plans, or the impact they will have on her, on [E], and on important members of her family. I am afraid that it is, in my judgement, a valiant but ill-considered attempt to hold to what she cannot bear to lose.”
“I, also, seriously doubt the long-term viability of the proposals, and whether they will achieve their end of protecting [E] from the family conflict. I share the concerns of the guardian that in time [the paternal grandmother] will gravitate back to [her home town]. She proposes to return on a weekly basis, in any event, to see her mother. She will bring [E] with her to allow him to see his father and great-grandmother. If [E’s mother] is determined to seek [E] out and to undermine the placement, this could, easily, provide her with the opportunity. The [two] families come from a close knit community. If [E’s mother] made it her business to track him down, I suspect that it would not take her long to do so.”
“nothing has happened in the short period between the care proceedings and now to alter the conclusions I reached then on the anxious choice between [the paternal grandmother]’s proposals and the alternative of an adoptive placement in a new family.”
“The essential point is that there is a serious risk of future harm, possible physical harm, but more importantly emotional harm, unless he is protected from the unresolved conflict between the two sides of his family as he grows up.”
“[E] will lose his relationship with his family members through adoption. His relationship with [the paternal grandmother] as his primary carer is particularly important to him, and the care plan recognises this by endeavouring to find a placement in which [E] will be able to have contact with her, four times a year as recommended by Professor Ostapuik. In recognition of the significance of the relationship with [his father] too, it has been agreed that the objective should be to find a placement, if possible, that will allow him to share the contact with his mother.”
“I do not consider that it would be appropriate for me to make orders for contact under Section 26 of the Act. The primary objective is to enable [E] to integrate into and become a full member of his new adoptive family. That process will not be assisted by continuing contact with his mother and maternal family, and such contact would not be for his benefit. Different considerations apply to [the paternal grandmother] and [E’s father]. If a placement can be found which will allow for contact, limited continuing contact may assist rather than undermine that process. I should emphasise, though, that the contact has to be for the benefit of [E] in his new placement and respect his wishes and feelings. Its purpose is not simply to allow his paternal family to retain some contact with him. In my view appropriate provision for contact is made within the care plan and it is neither necessary nor appropriate for the court to exercise its power to make Section 26 orders.”
“It would be wrong, though, to lose sight of the wealth of information already available to the court, and the careful scrutiny that the case has received in this and previous hearings.”