“… I have found myself unaccustomed emotionally moved with sympathy for the Mother who deliberately became sterilised after [E]’s birth so that she would not have the distractions from caring for [E] by giving birth to another child or children.”
“The children suffered from physical and emotional neglect for most of the time for most of their lives … The findings in respect of the mother … which I accept, put beyond argument the attribution of the harm to the children to the deficiencies in the mother’s parenting capacity. [The mother’s then counsel] may well be correct in saying that male partners from time to time contributed to the deficits of parental care, but the mother’s own shortcomings played a major part. It is a very sad situation because it is accepted that the mother loves the children in her own way. Her shortcomings are largely the product of her cognitive disabilities and the deficiencies of her own upbringing. She cannot be blamed for either of these.”
“21. The second matter that caused disquiet was that [the mother] was now presenting as sole carer for her child. This was particularly concerning because of [the mother]’s history in forming relationships. The records show that she has rarely been without a partner, rapidly seeking out a new partner almost immediately a previous relationship has come to an end - often to the detriment of her children. […] 32. Clearly, the instability of the couple relationship is deeply concerning. It was unstable for several years prior to their marriage and [E]’s birth. [E]’s welfare depends on long term stability and security.”
“31. [The mother] is the more able parent. Were she to present as sole carer for her child, we would be concerned because of her history in forming relationships. There are clear indications that, when a relationship ends, she rapidly seeks out a new partner. In the past, this has often been to the detriment of her children. Were the relationship with [the father] to break down further assessment would be crucial. […] 33. When their relationship is good, these parents can co-parent their daughter. [The mother] is the more able parent. In our placement we observed that the parents worked extremely well together, their skills complementing each other … Were there to be signs that the father was leaving the bulk of the parenting to [the mother], this would increase our concern. […] 43. It is clear to us that this family will need a consistent level of support throughout [E]’s childhood.”
“I visited [the mother] at her home on the 14th of May 2007 when she was occupying the role of sole carer to [E]. My own observations concurred with [the mother]’s comments that she was receiving positive feedback from the support team and from Mr Stubbs. She was adamant that her main priority was [E] and that she was determined to place [E]’s needs above her own. However, at the time of writing I understand that [the mother] has begun a relationship with Mr Nicholls, despite the ongoing assessment, and this has further complicated the situation and has indicated an inability to demonstrate her verbalised intention.” (b) Mrs Gage. She was extremely positive about the progress which the parents had made in her organisation's placement with Mr and Mrs Carr and, I infer, cautiously laudatory, other than in one respect, about what she had understood to be the quality of the care afforded to E since1 February 2007 . As foreshadowed in her reports, her principal concern was the mother's movement through short-lived intimate relationships and, in that regard, her understanding of the father's departure from the scene and of the arrival of Mr Nicholls back on to it. The judge recorded Mrs Gage's oral evidence that, were the mother's relationship with another partner to break down and thus another significant figure to exit from E's life, E would be likely to suffer emotional harm. The judge then said “That I identify as being a real risk in this case, which of course cannot sensibly be ignored”
“[E] at thirteen months old is up to if not slightly exceeding her chronological development. Whether that is due to be promptings by sessional workers on a daily basis or due exclusively to the mother is an issue, but … I am afraid I am driven to favour the former rather than the latter, although I am bound to acknowledge there has been some improvement.”
“The intensive support [the mother] has received since 18 August last year has shored up her own capacity, but that incapacity is not because she has borderline Learning disability but is due to her inability to provide consistent and good enough parenting and her inability to form relationships which last and when they break down she quickly seeks a replacement.”
“Whilst on reflection Mrs Taylor might be wise to conclude it would have appeared fairer to the parents and particularly to this mother if she had actually gone to visit the mother and child at home, in my judgment her omission to have done so does not mean that her report or her evidence is flawed, less so fatally so.”
“I am afraid that, try as I have done, I cannot find any persuasive reasons to reject the Guardian’s recommendation.”