“The father’s attitude throughout the proceedings, and certainly in court before me, is that he is not prepared to make C do anything that C did not want to do. Unfortunate incidents have occurred between mother and father over C, with the father saying words to C to the effect of, ‘You do not have to go if you do not want to go’ with the result that C was put in an impossible position of having to choose either to stay with the father or go, as arranged, with the mother.”
“The father’s case is that C should and can do what he chooses, but it has become apparent to me that the father puts C in an impossible position and unconsciously manipulates him so that C supports him, the father.”
“The father is in danger of making C think that C does not have to live within the law. If he says he will not do something, it is entirely acceptable, and the father makes excuses for C’s behaviour”
“35. In considering however the next point I must consider, whether it is in C’s best interest for the father to have leave to remove him from the jurisdiction, I have to say that this is a very fine balancing act. On the one hand, C wants to be with his father in [Canada], and the father, as a responsible and loving father, has a home and a school for C to go to. Once the father has employment and has thought about child care arrangements, and, indeed, contact, I am no doubt that he is capable of looking after C on good enough day to day basis save for contact. 36. On the other hand, C will not have the benefit of ease of contact with his brother or his mother if I grant leave, and which they would have if the father were to remain in the United Kingdom. The boys are close and it is accepted that a sibling relationship is very important to children as they grow, and it lasts throughout life. Furthermore, there is the fear that C may begin (he may already) to think that he must have what he wants, regardless of other people or the orders that the courts make. I have regard to the fact that this father and C appear to fuel each other’s wishes and to be thoroughly selfish. This father has not tried to be objective and to help C to do what was ordered by HHJ Mayer.”
“Balancing all these matters, I have decided to give interim leave”
“Ideally C and S should remain living in one household with the mother, with contact to father. But it has been demonstrated that this father refuses to help C to obey any order that the father does not want. In my judgment, it is marginally in the better interests of C and S if I accede to the father’s application to remove C from the United Kingdom for ten months, than refuse it. I have in mind the reality of C, a wilful eleven and a half year old who has made his wishes clear and who has walked twice already.”