“5. Father is 42. He is of Saudi Arabian nationality. Although he was born in Egypt, he lived in Saudi Arabia from the age of seven onwards. His own father was a servicing army officer in the Saudi Arabian army. The paternal grandparents live in Saudi Arabia though at some distance from Riyadh which has been the home of the parties. Father has brothers and sisters who have their own families. They also live in Saudi Arabia. Father is himself a consultant plastic surgeon. He practices at a hospital and other clinics in Riyadh. At present he is a doctor serving as an officer in the army, but he is on what amounts to demobilisation leave as he is, within the next month or so, to leave the army. He will continue in private practice, in exactly what capacity he does not yet know. Father’s postgraduate training was done in Canada and he was there for seven years. He holds an honorary fellowship of the Royal College of Surgeons in Edinburgh through a connection between the Riyadh hospital and Edinburgh, which was forged by mother’s father. It is an honour but it is no indication of any intention to practice in the United Kingdom. Father is experience in international travel. He clearly could work abroad but he has no plans to do so. He is firmly based in Saudi Arabia. 6. Mother is 31. She comes from medical family. Her parents were Kurdish refugees who came to England from Iraq in 1972. They lived for a few years in England and very early on in that period mother was born. It is accepted, accordingly, that mother has, by birth and through her father’s then domicile, an English domicile of origin. Mother’s family then went to Saudi Arabia in 1979, and both her parents practised there as doctors, in her mother’s case part-time. Mother and her parents all have dual Saudi Arabian and British nationality. Mother’s parents own land in Saudi Arabia. They have also kept a flat in London and it has been their practice to visit it for a number of weeks each year. Mother lived in England until she was nearly seven and then in Saudi Arabia until she was about 16. Her education in Saudi Arabia was at a Saudi Arabian school but she was entered for English Ordinary Level examinations, having studied at that school. She then spent the academic year, 1988 / 89, the lower sixth year, at two English boarding schools, and in the second A-level year she studied at a private London college, living at her parents’ flat. A statement in a recent job application made in Saudi Arabia to the effect that she had studied for her A-levels at the Saudi Arabian school is simply wrong. It is not easy to se how she could have forgotten that her sixth form studies had been in England. The probable explanation is that for the purposes of the application she felt the need to emphasise her Saudi Arabian background. After A-levels she went to Kings College London in October 1990 or perhaps 1991 it matters not – and she was there until 1997 when she emerged with a degree in nutrition and dietetics. After that she has worked, comparatively unusually for a woman in Saudi Arabia, without significant interruption since then except for no more than six or seven months during her pregnancy and immediately after F’s birth. F was born in5th April 2000 . He was born in America for medical reasons. Accordingly he was entitled to American nationality. The parents took steps to undertake the necessary paperwork before they left. There is no reason to read into that the least intention to make their home anywhere other than Saudi Arabia. Mother continued to work in Saudi Arabia until she left for England at the end of July 2002. 7. The parent’s matrimonial history is a little unusual because they have been married to each other twice. They met at the hospital where they both worked. There were discussions between father on the one hand and mother’s parents on the other to determine his suitability. At one point mother intervened on father’s behalf. It is clear that it was a love match and not an arranged marriage. I find that father must have been told that mother had dual nationality as well as that she had lived in London for some years as a student. I do not accept his evidence to the contrary. 8. They were betrothed at a social ceremony in London in December 1998 and married in Saudi Arabia in April 1999. They lived in a house in Riyadh which was made available through the good offices and influence of mother’s parents. 9. Unhappily, by April 2001 they had separated. There had been a very unfortunate row a few days before the separation. Mother received a small cut to her forehead from a videotape. Father had lost his temper and either thrown it at her or hit her with it. Mother did not sustain any serious injury and the assertion of mild concussion is over-stated. The injury, which was undoubtedly present, does not show up on a photograph taken next day. Father did not take mother to hospital, no doubt partly because he did not want what he had done to become public knowledge. Her parents did. She was treated in casualty and she returned home. Mother says that this was the most serious of several other occasions when father lost his temper and that he had slapped or punched her in the past. To anticipate, she says that since April 2001 he has also one or twice raised his hand to her, although not struck her. The incident with the videotape was not pleasant; no incident of domestic violence is to be brushed off. However, the losses of temper alleged by mother, which otherwise father denies, are, taken at their highest, not such as to weigh significantly on the question of whether F should be returned to Saudi Arabia or not. 10. After the videotape incident, the parties lived apart. About two months later, on10th June 2001 , father left for Europe on medical business. On either 11th or 14th June (in either case within a very few days) mother flew out of Saudi Arabia taking with her F and two nannies or maids. She had not told father of her intention to leave. Ordinarily, a wife in Saudi Arabia needs to show the airport authorities her husband’s consent to travel outside the kingdom. This mother was able to do that because from the outset father had endorsed a general consent on her passport. What she did not have was consent to take F out of Saudi Arabia. She was able to travel because she, or her father, had, without consulting the father, obtained a special authority from the Ministry on the basis that father was out of the country. She may have been assisted in her departure because she was able to travel in a private place belonging to a Prince of the Saudi Royal Family, and very likely was not subjected to the same controls as ordinary flights. 11. Mother’s case is that she had to obtain the Ministry authority because neither she nor her family could get in touch with father. I am afraid I find it impossible to accept that. Mother’s father, plainly a man of some seniority and influence, was a respected surgeon at the same hospital as father. Whether they worked in the same building or not, it is simply not plausible that he could not find father or have him found. Substantially the mother conceded this in evidence, as she had to . She suggested that she would not let her father find her husband; it was a matter of pride or principle. I am afraid I do not accept that either. On her own evidence, her father was put to the trouble of making daily visits to the Ministry time after time after time. It would have been a great deal easier to have found father. 12. In addition, on mother’s own evidence, the first approaches to the Ministry were made on 2ne June, that is to say over a week before father left the country. She cannot have thought that he was then out of the country, and I am quite satisfied that she made the decision to act unilaterally and surreptitiously because she feared that father would object if he was asked. 13. When the father did learn of this, he did object. He sought out mother’s father in Saudi Arabia and spoke to him. At or about the same time mother told father, through a colleague at the hospital, that she wanted to be divorced. Father wanted them to stay together. I accept that father also called for mother and son to come back to Saudi Arabia. Mother’s suggestion that he did not is not plausible. 14. However, mother did return and not under compulsion. She went back at the end of July with F. Her own case is that she had always intended to return, having merely taken the sort of summer holiday that was her practice. It is likely that, in addition to that consideration, a promise had been made by her father when obtaining her consent to travel that she would return, and father of course remained in Saudi Arabia and would be expected to honour the promise. 15. At all events, mother returned, although contemplating divorce. She does not suggest that she was under any kind of compulsion and her actions demonstrate that she plainly accepted the regime and culture applicable in Saudi Arabia, as she very properly should , having chosen to make her home there and bring up her son there. 16. Mother then brought proceedings in the Shariah court. As is well known, a wife does not have the unilateral power of divorce by talaq which a Muslim husband has by long tradition. A wife is in a significantly weaker position. But she is not wholly without remedy. She can petition the Shariah court. That court sets in train a process which we should call either mediation or conciliation, involving the families on both sides. The object is, if not reconciliation, an g=agreement under which the husband is persuaded to divorce his wife by talaq. Failing that, if satisfied of irretrievable break down, the court itself can pronounce a judicial divorce. It is perfectly clear that the husband’s bargaining position at this stage is appreciably the stronger of the two but, by one route or another, a divorce is often achieved, and so it was here. 17. The parties reached agreement. Mother had to give up some financial claims for reimbursement of wedding expenses in sums which the husband contended were unreasonable. The husband was persuaded to grant a talaq. The agreement was recorded in the court on15th October 2001 . It provided for maintenance of F by the father and set out the terms of his contact. The agreement also stipulated that mother should not leave the country with F without father’s written permission. I accept father’s evidence that although that would be the rule in any event, without any specific order, this figured in the negotiations and the court order because of father’s complaint about the departure to England that summer. The court order assumes, but does not specifically order, that F would remain with his mother in her care. Father had not contended otherwise. 18. Within two months of this divorce, the parents resumed cohabitation. Neither of them will now own to taking the initiative but ii is perfectly clear that it can only have happened by common consent. They were re-married before a judge in Riyadh on12th January 2002 . They embarked on the purchase of their own family home which stretched them financially. Father has in the past offered the suggestion that mother went through this process of divorce, reconciliation and re-marriage in order to be able in the future to leave Saudi Arabia with F and to stand in a stronger position to stay away than she had in 2001. I recognise that it is sometimes easy when enmeshed in a dispute to attribute deep-laid cynical plans to the other party, but I do not think that that analysis is likely. On the contrary, by submitting to the Shariah court and re-marrying in Saudi Arabia, mother demonstrated her commitment to that country. Had she been calculating her tactical position, which I do not think she was, she would have been likely to appreciate that she somewhat weakened it. 19. At the end of July 2002, mother travelled again to England with F and two nannies or maids, and went again to her parent’s London flat. This time she came with father’s consent. Within about a month she had enrolled for a one-year Masters degree in nutrition in London. She had made enquiries about this possibility before leaving Saudi Arabia. I do not think it is likely that she had told father about it before she left. If she had, I think that he would have had misgivings about her leaving Saudi Arabia with F, particularly in view of what had happened the previous year. It is much more likely that, so far as he was concerned, this 2002 trip was a holiday. 20. Even if I am wrong about that, I am quite sure that mother did not, as she now assets, tell father that she was unhappy with him and that her departure should be treated as a trial separation. If she had said anything like that, father would have been yet more anxious about F, because I am satisfied that he has always wanted F to live in Saudi Arabia, and I do not think that after the previous year’s experience he would have agreed to their going on that basis. 21. Moreover, he had just completed the purchase of the new family house, which is not readily consistent with an extended trial separation. 22. Certain it is that there had been arguments and disagreements between them on topics which do not now matter. It may be that mother was growing more unhappy but I do not believe that she avowed her unhappiness and asserted a trial separation when coming to England. 23. It is, however, clear that quite soon they were, by telephone and email, discussing mother’s proposal to stay for a year on the course. Some of the emails have survived, although they are unlikely to be all of them. Mother made out a good case for the course and she persuaded father to agree. In agreeing, father said explicitly that he would accept it providing that it was for no more than one year. In asking, mother expressed herself in affectionate terms and there is no hint of the now professed unhappiness or trial separation. What she did say was that she could not stand life in Saudi Arabia. There was no hit in her communications of impending separation or divorce and, if there had been, I do not think that the consent which she was seeking would have been given. In that event, the question which I am now confronting would have arisen a year ago. 24. I do accept that what mother said about her feelings about life in Saudi Arabia became increasingly important for her. She has lived quite a lot of her time outside Saudi Arabia and it is perfectly plain that she finds the restrictions of life there for a woman confining, even though this husband was comparatively westernised and liberal and did not require strict adherence to traditional laws. For example, mother pursued her own career throughout the marriage, even very soon after the birth of F. She had the general freedom to travel, but there is no doubt that the general rules of Saudi society did increasingly irk her, for example, the inability to drive or go out alone or to associate freely with whomsoever she chose. I have no doubt that the longer she has stayed in London, the worse the prospect of Saudi Arabia has seemed to her. 25. The distance between them grew and communication was increasingly sparse. Each complains about this. Mother says that he rarely called. He says he tried but could rarely find her in. The landline at the London flat was cut off and the telephone number changed and father was not given the new number. Mother’s very late suggestion, appearing for the first time in cross-examination, that this was because she thought father had made some nuisance calls, was not, to me, at all convincing. On the other hand, she had a mobile telephone. Father did sometimes call it. He could certainly have called it a good deal more often that he did, and he undoubtedly could have visited much more than he did. It is likely that they were simply growing apart; she increasingly reluctant to forsake a western lifestyle and he increasingly disenchanted with her and reluctant to make time in what was undoubtedly a very busy professional life. 26. Father did visit England once for just over a fortnight in October 2002. Sadly, the visit was not a success. Each saw things with which they were dissatisfied in the other and there was a nasty row at the end. There is no need to rehearse the details for, in the end, this represents no more and no loess than the sadly familiar signs of a fracturing relationship. Nothing in either of the competing histories helps me to decide the question which I have to resolve here. 27. There was a suggestion of a weekend together in Paris in December. That did not materialise. It seems to me that there was a lack of enthusiasm on both sides. 28. In the end, father did not see F between the October 2002 visit and last week, October 2003, when he was able to see him on several occasions having travelled here for this hearing. I find that he did not press, as it would have been reasonable to expect a father to do, and that mother made little or no effort to encourage him, as it would have been reasonable to expect her, in F’s interests, to do. The loser is F. 29. However, although father may have been open to criticism in the past for not finding as much time in a busy professional life for his son as would have been desirable, that is a criticism which has to be borne by a very large number of parents. There is no sign at all that he did not and does not love F, nor that their relationship is other than perfectly satisfactory, or at least will be once normal contact is resumed. In her own email mother said in September 2002: “I feel you only miss F. You always ask about him and not me”
“A return order will not be confined to a country where society and its laws operate in a way broadly similar to our own. The principle extends to those countries whose idea of child welfare is based on propositions which would not find a place in our practice. This includes Muslim countries which rely significantly on the concept of a family unit with a single responsible head of the family in the father. The Sharia practice is one in which father has unquestionably the stronger hand of the two parents. It has, however, as its object what is thought to be right for children, and it is a more flexible system than is sometime asserted. Whatever the strict rules may be, there is no general practice of removing children from mother’s care in every case at a milestone age. The emphasis on family mediation gives opportunity for concentration upon child welfare. In short, it may well be in a child’s best interests for his future to be determined according to a concept of child welfare quite different from our own, if that is the concept applied in the society of which he is part.”
“She points to complaints made in these proceedings about her personal conduct. She says, rightly, that if repeated in Saudi Arabia, they would have very serious consequences for her and indirectly have a serious adverse impact on F’s care.”
“He tells me that he wishes to make no complaint about her conduct and will not do so in any negotiations or proceedings.”
“51. As I said, most of this he told me in evidence on his oath. Through Counsel he advances the suggestion that I should make any order for return effective only when talaq had been pronounced, and he offers to register at the Shariah court both the talaq and the various assurances which he has given me. At the centre of this case is the question of how far I can properly rely on those expressions of intention. The question of course is not limited to whether he means it now, but whether one can be assured that the situation will remain the same.”
“56. Can I therefore safely reach a confident conclusion that this complaint, or something like it, will never figure so that the danger to F will never materialise? First, father’s assurances are given on oath on the Koran. He is a practising Muslim, though, as he very frankly told me, not deeply committed to his religion. It is not a case where I am satisfied that the mere fact of his oath by itself gives me sufficient confidence. I do not under-estimate the potential force of an oath. I have in an appropriate case accepted assurances on oath in order to enable a holiday visit to a Muslim country to be made when otherwise it could not be. But I cannot say that the oath by itself is sufficient in many cases, and it is not in this. 57. Mr Edge warned against undertakings generally in the context of a return to a Shariah country. The point that he was making was that they cannot bind except in conscience. He also observed that if they were given here and the subsequently raised in a Shariah court, there might easily be the suggestion that they had been obtained under duress in the sense that they had been the price in England of securing the release from England of the son to whom in Saudi Arabian eyes father is simply entitled. It is common ground that it is not possible to obtain a mirror order in Saudi Arabia. 58. Rather stronger are three other arguments for father. The first is that father has not raised any such accusations yet, although he has referred the matter to the Shariah court and indeed whilst F is being kept here in England. Nor did father show any sign of attempting to remove F from his mother or of making any complaint about mother’s behaviour or care when the opportunity did arise, i.e. at the time of the June 2001 departure, and at the time of the hearings at the end of 2001 which led to the first divorce. 59. Secondly, says Miss Lister on father’s behalf, he has no reason to raise a complaint of this kind. He is likely to be able to obtain the removal of F, if, contrary to his assurances, he want to, by insisting on his strict Shariah rights at any rate from the age of about seven onwards. 60. Thirdly, if an accusation is made, it is a serious offence in the accuser unless it is made good and, because of the gravity of the consequences, the standard of proof is high, and, it is said, unlikely to be available. 61. There is, I am satisfied, some force in these arguments. I am inclined, on balance, to accept the view that father’s present intention is to obtain the return of F to Saudi Arabia, with mother if at all possible, rather than to remove F from mother’s care. Although that is my finding, my concern remains two-fold. 62. First, father’s evidence displays a very worrying ability to live comfortably with saying one thing in one court and another in another, as the needs of the moment dictate. This complaint about mother’s conduct was there to support his case and the moment he saw that it might have the reverse effect, he sought firmly to remove it. It was quite apparent that he was comfortable with this casuistry. He – and I think I should add mother as well – displayed at a number of points in their evidence a tendency to rely on fine distinctions rather than addressing the meat of the issue raised for answer. That does not give confidence that one can rely on his assurance. 63. Secondly, it does seem to me that there is no doubt that there is a considerable risk that if mother does return with F future disputes will arise. Contact is an obvious occasion for dispute. It caused quite some considerable difficulty during the previous separation. I am not concerned to allocate responsibility. It may well be that there was, on both sides, absence of the understanding of the importance of effort at co-operation which alone makes contact work. Having seen and heard mother, I think it is plain that she did not actively promote contact as a custodial parent should. By way simply of example, she told me, revealingly, apropos of the long time without contact in the last year, “What am I to do? Beg?”
“There is no evidence that the Israeli courts would adopt an approach to the problem of B’s future which differs significantly from that of the English Courts. It is not a case in which B or his father are escaping any form of persecution or ethnic, sex or other discrimination. In a word, there is nothing to take it out of the normal rule that abducted children should be returned to their country of national residence”