"If contact is deemed to be in J's best interest... then it needs to become unsupervised and to include overnight stays as soon as possible. Mr T would continue to help J feel secure despite moving between two parents. Mrs T has also demonstrated that she is capable of promoting contact and it is anticipated that this would be easier for her once her mind is at rest on the issue of abuse. Mr T must then be allowed to develop the involvement he has in his son's life without further disruption."
"For Mrs T to have some sessions with someone who could help her to reduce her level of anxiety regarding contact with her son with his father. I believe that ST does believe that something bad has happened to her son at the hands of his father and without help, I think she is going to find it very difficult to relinquish those beliefs."
"I think she believes that but, although she can intellectualise about what is needed, she cannot put this into action. She acknowledges that she feels she cannot do right for doing wrong, and her response is therefore to do nothing in the hope that everything will sort itself out. Mr Holmes described this it as a sort of 'siege mentality'. Moreover, he is of the view that she will always feel under siege."
"Mrs T continues to be a very anxious mother. She is a very caring woman who feels that she is putting her children before all else. However, she seems to have a fundamental resistance to the idea that Mr T may have an equal claim to J as she does."
"... it was almost palpable at times. She had not taken on the message of the past twenty months of the proceedings, despite the clarity of what was needed after the August hearing. He felt that Mrs T's evidence demonstrated that there was not a great deal of optimism that Mrs T would accept the judgments and act on them. There was no great prospect for immediate change."
"There is little hope that Mrs T, as the residential parent, will now start to become more flexible, or, if she does, that the flexibility will be sustained. 4.5. If I were to transfer residence to Mr T, I think that there is more chance for generous and flexible arrangements for contact to Mrs T as the non-resident parent."